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The Memory Maker

Their first drawing, their first painting, their first tracing-so hard to throw them all away. I keep scrap books stuffed with these items and in one book I cut the pictures out and use them like a picture alphabet book so they can be looked at for learning and not just stuffed behind the sofa.

This got me wondering if there are any other ideas for keeping our memories alive.

PINTEREST.

Take a photo of your child’s artwork and collect the photographs on Pinterest for them to see when they’re older. No need to keep heaps of paper


KEEPY

An app that lets you capture works of art, special times and messages all in one place by their age. Bring the memories to life

 MAKE A MEMORY BOX

Nothing better than looking through objects that have an important meaning no matter how small. I have shells, jewellery, cards, photos and baby clothes in a special box. Even my little girls umbilical chord is in a bag (Not my idea-it’s gross)


SCRAPBOOKS

Here are my scrap books-I love them

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You can buy some lovely items too-silver fingerprint jewellery. First tooth silver boxes and photo albums.

 

I think it will be lovely for my daughter to see how she grew, what she did and where she went. These are the times that will help her develop and learn.

These are the memories I have too of being a mum.

Have a lovely weekend.

 

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Rubbish Mums

RUBBISH MUM

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When your family grows by one or more you become increasingly aware of the amount of household waste that is thrown away every day-particularly when you are in the nappy phase.

I took my daughter to a science museum this weekend where one of the exhibitors were appealing to the public not to throw waste down the toilets. I’ve always disposed of nappies safely but I do sometimes throw a wet wipe down the toilet. I didn’t realise the effect this has on our water supply:

  • The wet wipe market is growing at more than 15% a year according to research
    company Nielsen.
  • They don’t break up like tissue
  • Fat sticks to them and hardens to cause what the industry call ‘Fatbergs’
  • Wet wipes will block the system as they aren’t designed to decompose

With this in mind I am going to ditch the wet wipes and go back to good old fashioned soap and water. On cue my little girl has just come running in after washing her hands-so there is life after wet wipes. Are you an eco-mum?

FEED THE BIRDS-TUPPENCE A CAKE

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Another idea I stumbled upon is bird cakes using left over cooking oil.

I bought a cheap little kit to do this but you can make the so easily.

It services two purposes-feeding the birds and creating a use for cooking oil which is hard to dispose of.

Instructions:

Get a silicone muffin case

Drape in a piece of string folded in half (So it forms a handing loop at the top)

Fill the case with birdseed

Pour in left over cooking oil

Put in the fridge to set

Another idea for old cooking oil is to put it in a vessel-leave to set and then scoop in to the food waste bin.

HEART OF GLASS

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Another lovely idea for re-using glass jars-cover with crystals, tie ribbon round the centre, fill with pebbles or add a tealight. The uses are endless-it’s really easy to create shabby chic jars by using pinking shears to cut hearts out of fabric and glue to the glass-tie a ribbon around the top and glue a button in the centre and you can use the jars for holding cotton buds, make up brushes, toothbrushes-what ever you like.

If you search the internet for homemade gifts you will find lots of ideas for glass jars.

It’s really satisfying making something pretty and a lovely project to do with children.

Hope you enjoyed this blog.

Next time I write I might just be wearing a kaftan

 

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Where have I been?

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I haven’t blogged for ages. So where have I been?

The simple answer is I’ve been and still am in a tough place right now. It’s not easy to admit but things are getting on top of me a bit. I blame the weather-I don’t enjoy being stuck indoors. But it’s more than that.

I know plenty of other mums will understand me when I say that I just want to stop for a while.

I’m tired. I’m run down. I’m on my fourth week of having a cold this year and it’s not even March. I’m emotional. I’m feeling panicky.

Why?

Nothing. Everything. Nothing. Everything.

My mum used to say jokingly I wish someone would put me in solitary confinement for a couple of days.

Do you know what? I can see where she’s coming from.

Today I’ve been to a fitness and wellbeing Expo-and with my chipped finger nail paint and laddered tights I realised I am on the bottom of the priority list. Its understandable with a little girl I love and a job I love that my wellbeing is sometimes not at the forefront of my mind. I always try and do my best with everything.

Take today-before I to work my little girl was dressed in a lovely outfit, 2 loads of washing went in, I organised lunch for my family and went shopping. I on the other hand threw an outfit on and ran out of the door dishevelled.

I think it’s a sign of weakness to admit I’m a bit frazzled. Is it?

The funny thing is I’m not one of life’s chilled people anyway. I could be on my own in the universe-sitting down to watch a film would be the last thing on my mind. I like being busy, I like being inspired, I love DOING

So what will it take to get me back to a good place?

Healthy eating

Exercise

Fresh air

Nail varnish

Loud music

and……. a goal.

Simple things can make you feel just great.

If you’re with me pop by and say hi.

Thanks for reading today

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Turn The Page

World Book Day is coming soon-March 6th 2014 and my little girl has just brought a letter from school saying they have to go in dressed as a character from their favourite book.

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I’m so excited-I mean my daughter is so excited.

This comes on the day, however, that as I was tidying her room this morning I found two crumpled pieces of a gorgeous pop up book in her bed. I was a bit sad to see she’d ripped this as it really it a lovely bright book with lovely thick glossy pages.

She loves books though and has a bookcase full in her bedroom and a book box in the living room. At Christmas time we have a Christmas book box filled with stories of Santa, Snowmen and the Twelve Days of Christmas.

I love books and have a floor to ceiling book case-full of art books, novels and hobby books. I have a case full of cook books too.

But I rarely get to read which is sad.

Books are a way of escaping, a way of dreaming and a great insight in to other people’s lives.

So what are our favourite books?

My daughters:

  1. Daisy Duck-A delightful story of a little duck who swims off with out her Mummy
  2. Peppa Pig and the tooth fairy
  3. Flip and flop-a story about two penguin friends
  4. Santa needs a wee-yes it’s still out and being read
  5. Day Monkey and Night Monkey (Secretly my favourite book of hers too!)

My favourite books:

  1. Phantom of the Opera by Susan Kay
  2. The Chronicles of Narnia
  3. The Diary of Anne Frank
  4. Lord of the flies
  5. We’re going on a bear hunt (Love reading this to my daughter)

There are some great resources for parents:

WORLD BOOK DAY ONLINE STORY http://www.worldbookday.com/videos/dr-seuss-on-the-loose/

TIPS ON HEARING YOUR CHILD READ http://www.topmarks.co.uk/parents/ten-tips-on-hearing-your-child-read

BUY BOOKS TO SUIT THEIR AGE http://www.thebookpeople.co.uk/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/cms_rhPlainArticle?storeId=10001&catalogId=10051&langId=100&articlePath=%2Fjamboree%2FRed+House%2FTop+10s%2FTop+Ten+Books+by+Age%2FThree+years+%2B

So celebrate World Book Day and get reading.

I’ll let you know if my daughter goes to school as a duck or a pig!

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Is My Child Safe?

The sad news today of a little missing boy found after going missing days ago really touched me. I cried as if I knew him-I wanted so much for him to be found safe. Why did it affect me so much?

Because I think every parent thought-could this of been my child?

The reports initially said that the little boy had let himself out of his house in the middle of the night. Although this has turned out not be true it has forced  me to think about how safe my daughter is. Our children can be clever, devious, surprisingly clever and ingenious when it comes to getting what they want.

I’ve seen my daughter climb on to a radiator to get a sweet from the windowsill, I’ve seen her unbuckle her seatbelt and stand behind me and I’ve seen her switch the oven on and get her oven gloves on!

I think I’m quite a relaxed mum-I think the best way to learn is by experience. Obviously I protect my daughter from dangers that can cause her serious harm but I let her be as independent as I can-I’ll let her put the wrong shoe on the front foot, read a book upside down, struggle putting on her own jumper. I’ll sometimes watch her throw a tantrum because she can’t do something and then watch her delight as she realises she can.

My fundamental belief is the best way you can keep a child safe is by giving them the knowledge they need to make the right choices. Of course we’re all bound to get it wrong every now and again.

So what do we need to do to keep our children safe-children of any age

*Stranger danger-I’ve always found it odd when as proud parents we encourage our just talking children to say ‘hiya’ to everyone who might give them attention-then we have to re-teach stranger danger. It’s really important to make sure that they know how to keep themselves safe. And of course there is stranger danger online now too. How and what do we teach?

Remember Charlie Says?

The best advice I could find is on the Kidscape website-click to find out more.

Home safety-Make sure doors are locked and keys taken out of the door if your children are young. Keeps keys at close reach in case of fire.

Green Cross Code-Practice not preach the code so it becomes a behaviour. Talk  about the importance of not using a mobile phone or texting while crossing the  road. How many times have you seen someone crossing and texting who doesn’t even know you’re there?

Teaching your child to cross the road safely

  1. Find the safest place to cross with a clear view all around, away from parked cars, junctions, bends or the brow of a hill if possible. Explain to your child why it’s important to choose a place with a clear view.
  2. Holding hands with your child, show them how to stop on the kerb, look all around and listen for traffic before they cross.
  3. When there is no traffic coming, walk straight across (not diagonally) and keep looking and listening.

There’s danger everywhere but you can’t live life in a cocoon-all we do it make what we think are the best choices and as mums these will differ amongst us.

It’s really important that you know what limitations your child will have at a certain age-for example my little girl is three and although she’s very bright I need to be aware that sometimes she can get distracted. She is learning about road safety and I am trying to teach her that running in and out of the clothes rails in shops is not funny-she’s like a whippet a times.

There’s so much for her to learn-I don’t want her growing up frightened of everything.

I do want a savvy little girl who knows how to help keep herself safe.

Easy right?

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Mums The Word

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I asked my mum friends six questions on being a mum-their answers makes for a great honest read:
1) What was the hardest thing about being a working mum with a toddler
2) What was your lowest point?
3)What is your most treasure memory?
4)If you did it all again what would you change?
5)What would be your top tip to pass on to another Mum?
6)Who is your ‘mummy’ idol?
My own answers were:
1) What was the hardest thing about being a working mum with a toddler?-for me it was ‘having’ to become very domesticated. I couldn’t really cook before.
2) What was your lowest point? When I went to a baby group and felt so fat and unattractive and embarrassed.
3)What is your most treasured memory? When my daughter had a test in hospital to see how she was developing she was given some cereal hoops to see if she had a good pincer grip. Instead she sucked the hoop in to her mouth and ate it
4 )If you did it all again what would you change? I wouldn’t have bought soooooo much stuff! Babies and toddler don’t need everything there is on the market. I bought way too much. My house became a toy shop
5) What would be your top tip to pass on to another Mum? Have good people around you who can help you but also keep being an individual and have fun.
6) Who is your ‘mummy’ idol? Probably my friend who is quirky, quite laid back, headstrong and independent.
My friend
1) What was the hardest thing about being a working mum with a toddler- not having any time for anything… for my son, for the house, for me, for my husband or life in general.
2) What was your lowest point? To be honest I have had a few, mostly due to lack of sleep and life’s stresses
3)What is your most treasured memory? Again so many, most recently me and my son in shop-he grabs my face kisses me loads and tells me how much he loves me. Lush
4)If you did it all again what would you change? More family time …it’s so precious and he grows so quick.
5)What would be your top tip to pass on to another Mum? Don’t stress over the milestones, relax they will happen when they will and just enjoy your child they grow soo fast
6)Who is your ‘mummy’ idol? many of my friends are working mums whom i respect greatly for keeping sane… and I take my hat off to and those with children who have medical problems … All good mums are Heros and mummy idols x
Another friend wrote:
1.Hardest thing about being a working mum with toddler is having no me time to do the things I used to do.
2.lowest point was when my daughter was unwell as a baby, nothing too serious but it made me really sad and I cried a lot.
3.most treasured memory was hearing my girls first little cry and cuddling her when she was born. Also everytime she says I love you, Mummy tank fills right up.
4. If I’m ever lucky enough to do it all again I would labour longer at home before calling the midwife. Every day I also struggle to be calmer than I feel.
5.top tip: all children need happy/ functioning mummies. So find what keeps you happy/ functioning.
6.my Mummy idol is my friend as she’s cool, calm and creative.
And another friend was kind enough to share this:
1. Having to say goodbye.
2. Seeing them ill and not being able to take their pain away.
3. First sight of them.
4. Make sure I enjoyed every tiny thing they did, not to do the ‘I can’t wait until’ routine.
5. No matter what happens you are an amazing mom and don’t let anyone or anything make you feel different.
6. Every mom who loves their children for who they are, not what they want them to be.
Whatever situation you face in life it’s always good to have friends you can share experiences with. You never have to struggle on your own.
Please share your thoughts-I’d love to hear them
Thank you to my friends for being so open and honest.